Last night I visited my girlfriend's Bible study, its about 35000km from my place through traffic. Seldom a pleasurable drive unless I've got a new CD I want to listen to, but I digress. It was good and I think I may have learned something from it.
As the study ended and we were all greeting each other and chatting and generally moving in the direction of the door one of the guys comes over with his wife (yes his wife) and greets my girlfriend. This is no ordinary hug and "Bye!" though, he says something like "It was good seeing you again, see you Sunday or next week!" And leans in and kisses her ON THE LIPS! I was like "Did that just happen? Did this dude just kiss my chick? Why do I feel so defiled, like I've just been cheated on? Is this normal? Is it socially acceptable behaviour? Will it be socially acceptable behaviour if I punch him in the mouth?"
So many questions, so little time to react, so I ended up just standing there and greeting the guy too and feeling like an Iraqi after the US deployed its largest "Shock and Awe" bombing raid. I really don't know what to make of it but I know it didn't feel right to me. To me kissing on the lips is reserved for family, nuclear and extended, and someone if it is their birthday or Christmas or something really important, like mouth to mouth resuscitation.
Granted there were a few guys who went to my school (it was an all boys school), who instituted lip kiss greetings with all the girls once they got into medical school. But I'd file that under "Making up for lost time". I don't know where to file this but at the moment its sitting in the "Doesn't seem right" folder.
In all fairness my lovely girlfriend did tell me about it before, and that its only that guy, and its harmless but man there is a world of difference between hearing about something and thinking, "That's completely understandable" and seeing it. When I see it I think "What is going on here? Those lips are reserved! Right of admission reserved buddy!"
What do you think of the lip-kissing thing?
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Guys who greet girls by kissing them on the mouth
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Two comments (in advance: neither of these comments are insightful or politically correct :P)
(1) Long as he didn't try the same thing with you Jonno.
(2) I love the way things are phrased on this blog. "feeling like an Iraqi" was excellent! However: next time it's socially acceptable to adopt this guy's method of greeting people and for you to make him feel like an American by kissing his wife on the lips. :P
Why did you not kiss his wife on her lips..better still kiss him on the lips. Men kissing men is aceeptable is Iraq, since you are feeling like an Iraqi
punch him
chipp, your comment was hilarious! Thanks for popping in. My fans (Danie and Bevan) are saying that you guys commenting are funnier than me. And that is cool
Nah... that ain't right!? In fact this reminds me of something similar that happened to me once. One of my guy friends and I are very close - we consider each other sister and brother, and I've been considered as 'part of his family' - like an extra kid. Anyway, we both went to church and to college together, and during our final year graduation showcase (we studied design and advertising), his brother came to see the work, with his wife - and when he said hi and congratulated me, he kissed me on the lips! It was a very 'chaste' kiss (as chaste as a peck on the lips can get) but I felt like a scarlet woman! His wife was right there, but she was just smiling and everyone carried on like it was normal! Believe me, it wasn't like we moved our heads in the wrong direction, he was aiming straight on! And we're all Christians. St-raaaange... And no-ones done it since...
Unless a girl is your wife, sister, mother or some kind of other relative (or your wife-to-be) you got no business plonking your lips onto her mouth.
I only took the time now to read your entire post.
You know something, I really think that if your girlfriend feels uncomfortable with this guy kissing her, she should tell him. I know that I won't like it if guys just kiss me on the lips like that. And I would straight out tell a guy that I don't like it.
Also, you haven't been cheated on. I know you didn't like what happened... but maybe you should discuss it with her and move on from there.
Anyhew, good luck.
You poor thing, no that’s not right at all. I think he digs your lady so beware. That is totally unacceptable. You are right that those kisses are for family, and only YOU! If it happened only once it can be over looked, but more than that I would approach the guy and find out what his intentions are cause man that is socially unacceptable unless his gay Whooo
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